Mom break in DR.

My life often feels like a whirlwind, a constant balancing act between family duties and personal aspirations. Everything seems to revolve around my loved ones—the meals I prepare, the events I attend, even when I can squeeze in a moment for self-care like a haircut or manicure. Most days, I’m either chasing my kids through the park or navigating therapy appointments and after-school programs. I even wake up before dawn to exercise, ensuring it doesn’t clash with my extensive family responsibilities. If I miss that early workout, my day starts in a chaotic scramble.

While I cherish my family beyond measure, this perpetual motion leaves me utterly exhausted. Travel is my sanctuary, a source of true rest and joy. However, traveling with children, as any parent knows, is hardly a relaxing endeavor. After months of family road trips and flights back to the Midwest to visit relatives, I desperately needed a different kind of journey—a solo escape, just for myself.

The Value of Personal Time

When we talk about “quality time,” our thoughts usually drift to cherished moments with partners, children, siblings, or parents. It’s a concept held in high regard, a sentiment echoed in a recent study by Hyatt’s Inclusive Collection. This research highlighted that a significant 86% of parents desire more time with their families. Over half admitted that work obligations, jam-packed schedules, and digital devices often keep them from being truly present at home. A surprising 42% even confessed they would embark on a “dream trip” with their family if financial constraints were not an issue.

The study also shed light on couples, with one in three reporting insufficient quality time together. Interestingly, 35% of women in relationships expressed a strong desire for more togetherness, compared to 26% of men. Overall, a compelling 84% of those surveyed believe that travel significantly enhances their relationships. These insights underscore the universal quest for meaningful connections and shared experiences.

Solo Travel for Rejuvenation

But what about the imperative need for quality time with oneself? As a parent, a spouse, and an employee, so much of my identity becomes intertwined with these roles. This is precisely why solo travel has always held such profound significance for my spirit. And, as the Hyatt study confirmed, many others share this sentiment deeply.

A substantial 54% of solo travelers indicated they undertake these journeys for a much-needed reset. An even greater 58% are seeking new experiences, while 50% simply desire something exciting to anticipate. For months, my routine had been a monotonous cycle of exercise, childcare, work, squeezed-in date nights, checking in with aging parents, therapy sessions, and endless cleaning and cooking. I desperately needed something fresh to look forward to. So, when Hyatt extended an invitation to explore one of their newest all-inclusive properties, Secrets Playa Esmeralda Resort & Spa in Miches, Dominican Republic, I didn’t hesitate. As the departure date neared, my excitement mounted. The promise of genuine relaxation in an unexplored locale for a few days—an experience I knew would rejuvenate me—was incredibly compelling. An unexpected bonus? The chance to hear from Dr. Deepak Chopra himself.

Mindful Inspiration from Deepak Chopra

Dr. Deepak Chopra, renowned author, celebrated wellness guru, and pioneer in mindfulness, has partnered with Hyatt. He’s a key member of their new Wellbeing Collective Advisory Board and is introducing an innovative in-resort experience called “Mindful Moments.” This program leverages tools like DeepakChopra.ai to help guests find grounding and answer their questions about well-being. Imagine having any question answered in Chopra’s own distinctive voice!

However, I had the privilege of experiencing him in person. One evening, he addressed our small group, urging us to be keenly aware of our surroundings. He spoke of listening to the ocean’s rhythm and understanding our intrinsic connection to the universe. He poignantly remarked, “Trees are your lungs. If they didn’t breathe, you wouldn’t breathe.” This wisdom resonated deeply. We also engaged in intention setting and a stillness practice, prompting us to reflect: Who are you? What is your deepest desire? What is your purpose? And what are you grateful for?

He strongly emphasized the importance of being present during our travels, reminding us that the present moment is all we truly possess. He noted, “The present is the junction of two things that don’t exist,” referring to the past and the future. This was a powerful reminder to put down our phones and truly savor the moment. “A photo has no life in it,” he asserted. He advised a simple yet profound practice: “Periodically ask yourself, ‘Am I here?’ When you ask yourself, you’ll be present.” This mindfulness, he explained, begins the moment you step off the plane. Chopra highlighted that one of the most effective ways to combat jet lag is through grounding yourself—feeling the sand beneath your feet, touching the water, connecting with trees. Travel, he emphasized, offers a genuine opportunity for profound connection, if only we are willing to let go of distractions.

Embracing My Present Moment

After dedicating a bit more time than I would have liked to wrap up some initial work, I consciously chose to embrace Chopra’s advice and truly immerse myself in the present. During my stay at the expansive, adults-only Secrets property—which is conveniently connected to the family-friendly Dreams resort and nestled along the secluded Playa Esmeralda shoreline—I did something I hadn’t done in years: I swam. Beyond simply admiring the breathtaking turquoise waters that framed the resort, I spent a considerable amount of time in the resort’s various pools. And I mean, I really swam. When I travel with my children, my focus is almost entirely on supervising them, ensuring they enjoy the splash pads and kiddie waterparks. Also, I often feel I lack the time or inclination, when with them, to deal with washing and drying my very thick hair. But this time, none of that mattered. I enjoyed moments with fellow press trip attendees, but I also carved out plenty of time for myself, swimming laps, diving deep into the water, feeling its soothing embrace offer true respite.

My culinary experiences were equally delightful. Mornings often found me at the Market Café, savoring a vibrant mix of local specialties, fresh fruits, and savory meats. For dinner, I enjoyed Mediterranean-inspired dishes with my peers at Meraki, explored Dominican flavors at Dona Altagracia, and indulged gleefully in exquisite French cuisine at Bordeaux. I was always perfectly satiated. And even outside the main dining rooms, hunger was never an issue.

The Barefoot Grill, conveniently situated by one of the resort’s lively pool areas known for its dance parties, offered pizzas, burgers, and other comforting quick bites. I often took these back to my room to enjoy on my balcony or scarfed them down while attempting to decipher local Spanish television. Coco Café, open 24 hours, was a treasure trove of delicious treats—ice cream, coffee, sandwiches, and sweet snacks, perfect for any time of day. For those leisurely mornings or relaxed lunches, the diverse room service menu, ranging from soups and sandwiches to elaborate platters, was an excellent option, allowing for breakfast in bed or a quiet meal.

Movement, Mindfulness, and Travel’s Mood Boost

Amidst all the relaxation, I still made time for physical activity, both in and out of the water. The resort’s gym, sparkling and new, was fully equipped with Technogym bikes, treadmills, and an abundance of weights and space. While I regularly met up with fellow journalists and the Hyatt team for dinners and engaging experiences—like painting the symbolic Muñecas Limé figurines, practicing serene yoga on the beach, or exploring a cacao route (the Dominican Republic is famous for its organic cacao) and the breathtaking panoramic views from Montaña Redonda—a significant portion of my time was spent alone. And for the first time in a long while, it felt incredibly good to have that solitude.

According to Hyatt’s survey, a remarkable 90% of American travelers reported that vacations significantly improve their mood, with 22% experiencing this mood boost for up to a week after their trip. Around 63% of respondents favored a relaxing vacation over an adventurous one, a desire shared by 37%. The survey also found that 62% believe travel is primarily about spending quality time. I resonated deeply with all these findings. My goal was to relax, elevate my mood, and truly connect with myself. And I achieved it. Although my stay was brief, the profound sense of peace I discovered allowed me to ease back into my responsibilities at home without the usual overwhelming overstimulation that had become my norm. While away, I enjoyed the luxury of extra sleep, relishing the rare experience of having an entire bed to myself. More than anything, in the refreshing newness of Secrets Playa Esmeralda, I was able to dedicate time to truly rediscover myself. Marriage, motherhood, and life’s myriad experiences had subtly shifted who I was. Moving at my own rhythm, deciding what I genuinely wanted to do and when, or simply choosing to do nothing at all, granted me the precious opportunity to be fully present. It was a powerful reminder that the present moment, indeed, is a profound gift.

Frequently Asked Questions

What did the Hyatt study reveal about parents’ desire for quality time?
The study found that 86% of parents wish they had more quality time with their loved ones. Many cited work, busy schedules, and devices as hindrances to being present with family.

How did the study characterize quality time for couples?
One in three couples reported not getting enough quality time together, with 35% of women and 26% of men craving more togetherness. Additionally, 84% of those surveyed believed travel improves their relationship.

What motivated solo travelers in the Hyatt study?
A majority of solo travelers, 54%, undertook trips for a “reset.” Other key motivations included seeking new experiences (58%) and having something to look forward to (50%).

Who is Deepak Chopra and what is his role with Hyatt?
Deepak Chopra is a renowned author, wellness expert, and mindfulness pioneer. He is part of Hyatt’s new Wellbeing Collective Advisory Board and is offering “Mindful Moments,” an in-resort experience that includes tools like DeepakChopra.ai to help guests feel more grounded.

What advice did Deepak Chopra offer about traveling?
Chopra emphasized being present and aware of surroundings, advocating for grounding practices like feeling the sand or touching trees to combat jet lag. He advised putting away phones to truly experience the moment, as “a photo has no life in it.”

What were the author’s key takeaways from her solo trip?
The author found deep relaxation, the courage to swim regularly, and enjoyed diverse culinary experiences. She also appreciated the solitude for self-reflection and the ability to move at her own pace, which allowed her to feel truly present and reset before returning home.

How did the Hyatt survey describe the impact of vacations on travelers’ moods?
According to the survey, 90% of American travelers reported that vacations improve their mood, with 22% experiencing this positive effect for up to a week after their trip. Most respondents (63%) preferred relaxing vacations over adventurous ones.

Your Personal Retreat Awaits

If you’re feeling the pull for a personal refresh, a moment to reconnect with your innermost self away from daily demands, consider the transformative power of solo travel. Just as I rediscovered my rhythm and peace at Secrets Playa Esmeralda, an escape tailored to your needs can offer that vital reset. Explore the possibilities with Hyatt Inclusive Collection and embark on your own journey of self-discovery. Your quality time awaits.